What is the least amount of time that you think you should know someone before you become intimate?  

LetsChillax 52F  
5245 posts
12/26/2018 2:44 pm
What is the least amount of time that you think you should know someone before you become intimate?

Not at all, I like em strange
At least a few minutes at the bar first
Few days of online chatting
Few weeks of online chatting and phone calls
Two-three dates
30-60 days
Depends on the person
Other, described below

spoilyoubb 54M
27 posts
2/10/2019 12:41 pm

it just depends.....

oralguy200 72M
13 posts
2/6/2019 2:51 pm

In a swinging party say a half hour of chatting

thejashman 33M
30 posts
2/1/2019 5:12 am

if the chemistry is right from the first mn of the meet up i don't waste time

fun2bhadsoon 51M
12 posts
1/31/2019 8:29 am

it all depends...if you chat with someone and the chemistry is right, that could be all it takes, but it could take a few dates or chats to feel comfortable with that person. I also think it would be different for women opposed to men. It's a crap shoot....lol

funasianma1e 44M
88 posts
1/15/2019 9:58 pm

depends on the 2 people involved and the vibe they feel for one another.
If it takes one meeting to get it or if it takes a few meetings.

waterman230 43M  
5 posts
1/14/2019 2:52 pm

well im here for NSA so i think this is different for everyone. i want a women to want me tho. i like to talk a few times just to make sure. i refuse to pressure anyone into sex or anything else for that matter. just my nature i guess.

mcs4849 62M
30 posts
1/11/2019 8:43 pm

Not with all women but some definitely

Me59x 62M
22 posts
1/11/2019 8:19 pm

I had spent several weeks talking with women, then had a date or two to get to know them before jumping in the sack

MisterDingDong18 58M
25 posts
1/10/2019 1:42 pm

Depends on the person, the chemistry, your level of trust in them, your willingness to take risks, etc.

And let's face it, hormones can tilt many of us toward taking risks we might not take when we're not quite so horny.

Dan_Thevoyeur 68M  
1 post
1/7/2019 6:56 pm

It depends on the chemistry/energy you feel when you meet. I normally like knowing someone for a while, but I’ve had it occur in less than 2 hours after meeting. Very intense sex. Sometimes you just feel it.

GuyinVegas1 60M
6 posts
1/7/2019 9:35 am

If you are looking to fuck, then only enough time to say "Hi"

twoxjr 59M
6 posts
1/7/2019 6:09 am

it depends on how "HORNY" you are.

oldman1973 70M/33F  
504 posts
1/6/2019 9:06 pm

When we meet I Phon (F) will fuck for any man my husband has selected straight away

mcs4849 62M
30 posts
1/6/2019 10:58 am

It depends...have had situations when we clicked immediately, other times several meetings and a lot of chat time.

KT1207 50M  
25 posts
1/5/2019 5:02 pm

It all depends on the chemistry, situation and mood... no formula.. just go with the flow.

brandini734 24M  
76 posts
1/5/2019 3:35 pm

2-3 dates is the safest in my opinion.

smalltownhell 57M  
1 post
1/5/2019 9:40 am

2 nd wife 1 night stand togather8 yrs ..3rd wife same 12yrs

WellINever101 49M
72 posts
1/5/2019 8:31 am

I agree the genuine people here just wanna fuck. I’ve fucked a few women who I didn’t necessarily find attractive but boy could they suck a cock!!

Yomocloud 30M
14 posts
1/4/2019 9:23 pm

The shortest amount of time was about 5 min after meeting we talked a little over the internet and she asked me to meet up and cum in her pussy. I meet up with her she said after about 5 min of talking can I suck your dick

ohsosmooth69 58F
10 posts
1/4/2019 3:27 pm

for me it has been as little as 10 minutes,and few times it was months,depends on the circumstances and person. the 10 minutes, makes me sound like a slut, but i had girl/girl fun with her"my roommate at the time, her and i talked about a 3some with her boyfriend, whom worked away at the time,and i had never met,i came home from work,knew he was coming over soon, went and showered, came out of the shower and he was there and they were already busy in my bedroom, thought this is a open invitation, walked up and said hi, can i join, she said please, he smiled and said HELL YES, so even less than 10 minutes, but enjoyable, hehehe, my first 3some, actually went through my mind i should wait, but thought i would chicken out if i thought about much, so i just seized the moment.

flasher4u3 61M  
47 posts
1/4/2019 11:39 am

I love having sex with my friends. It is very exciting when we both know what turns each other on and share feelings along with sensations. Having said that, I have had some very exciting experiences with total strangers a few times too!

edstarr2 53M/49F
8 posts
1/4/2019 9:43 am

just present yourself

Bull_mature 57M  
35 posts
1/4/2019 8:58 am

Depends on connect & chemistry between the two

EnjoyLife6446 60M
20 posts
1/3/2019 10:11 pm

each person an each situation is different

puzzieasslicker9 48M
27 posts
1/3/2019 5:14 pm

After we say hello.

agilelips 63M
79 posts
1/3/2019 5:00 am

Surely it is all to do with chemistry. On occasion there is that instant mutual attraction where one literally cannot wait to get down and dirty. On another occasion a little chat, a few dates or even long term communication may be appropriate. There can be no hard and fast rules governing attraction.

cunnilingdude01 57M  
1 post
1/2/2019 12:28 pm

I like to get to know a little bit about a woman before I hop in bed with her. I've been put into too many uncomfortable situations, and mostly a chemistry between two people turns good sex into great sex.

fucktoyshavefun 40M/38F  
28 posts
1/1/2019 11:36 pm

i would have to say what ever feels right

Cpllooking6671 52M/47F  
1119 posts
1/1/2019 1:08 pm

Since we are looking at both single & couples, it all depends on the chemistry and the dynamics of the personalities involved. We may or may not have a chance to chat some before a meet n greet or we have a few dinners after the meet n greet. We have played directly after the meet n greet cause that spark was there and the spontaneity was hot!
So all in all- Just go with the flow/feeling is how we see it.

PVJowe 59M/56F  
113 posts
1/1/2019 11:06 am

I like to at least get through a glass maybe 2 glasses of wine before I take him home

throatscock 91M

1/1/2019 5:02 am

Depends on the person. First appearance tells a lot about someone and it doesn't take long before you get turned on or off. Go with instinct I say.

Yourtoy2use2019 23M  
6 posts
12/31/2018 7:07 pm

Never to soon

sexybunny4love 52F  
253 posts
12/31/2018 6:48 pm

With some it's a week of chatting, others take time, depends how we click I guess, x

~ Dare to be different ~ sexybunny4love

Janet4fun2016 57T  
625 posts
12/31/2018 5:01 pm

When your both in the mood.

need2chew 57M
16 posts
12/31/2018 4:02 pm

if we talk for a few and agree what we want out of us hooking up

newportnewsman69 36M
13 posts
12/31/2018 9:18 am

Very interesting.

MyraJessie 38M
1 post
12/31/2018 8:15 am

nice tits love them

Timetraveler2 55M  
134 posts
12/31/2018 4:17 am

It seems that most of us feel the same, it depends on chemistry and the situation.

Keltstar1 54M
1 post
12/30/2018 1:34 pm

It always depends on what chemistry/magic ignites upon meeting. Maybe the sexual desire will be immediate, or maybe it will be interest and a need to know more. Haven't we all had those experiences??? Basically, it's always what you feel most, and not to over think it . . . and to miss/lose something that intuition tells you will be unforgettable!

Crystal_Lake 35F  
419 posts
12/30/2018 11:27 am

The title of this poll should be called:


My cup runneth over
Like blood from a stone
These stand for me
Name your god and bleed the freak
I like to see
How you all would bleed for me

XGaladrielle 54F  
15 posts
12/29/2018 7:21 pm

Chemistry? I'm on this site to fuck, meet strangers in a hotel room, intense kissing as soon as he enters the room. sucking his cock after 1 minute. Don't wanna know his life,will never see him again.

Y a tout ce qu'on doit taire, tout ce qui ne se dit pas… JJ Goldman

man4tgirl2 65M
21 posts
12/29/2018 3:58 pm

got to see if there is chemistry

sexydad1167 51M  
1357 posts
12/29/2018 1:35 pm

Ive had some women naked in 10-15 min of meeting after a day or a week of emails or texts. I haven't gone past second date in many many years. To me its so important to make sure we are completely sexually compatible otherwise no point in continuing especially if its going to be a romantic relatikonship.

9 posts
12/29/2018 1:24 pm

I am just looking to fuck as love as they are DDF no need to wait

DoctorBooty 38M  
6180 posts
12/29/2018 7:46 am

It really depends for me. I have taken a hotwife to my apartment after one day of chatting, I've taken girls home from the bar, and i've chatted with some women for months before we could meet.

Invariably, the buildup makes it better, so long as the time is within reason. A few weeks at most. When it gets to months, then others will take your attention away.

johnt999x 57M
5 posts
12/29/2018 5:14 am

Been to a swingers and have had sex with a few women and I cannot even tell you there name. It was all about recreational sex

letsgettogeth119 72M
43 posts
12/28/2018 9:30 pm

Depends when we want to get it on.

872295433 31F  
11 posts
12/28/2018 7:14 pm

If I am just looking for a one night stand, there is not reason to wait.

Luv2bottom4u2 61M  
1129 posts
12/28/2018 4:24 pm

Well I think it all depends, I am a bit older but I am sure things may somewhat be the same. I have met women at a bar and had sex that evening.
Then again it might of been a date or two before sex.

LetsChillax 52F  
700 posts
12/28/2018 12:07 pm


dammifiknow2 51M  
79 posts
12/28/2018 7:48 am

cliche as it is......it IS all about the chemistry.......physical, emotional, and mental

Knoxslutwife 43M/39F  
155 posts
12/28/2018 7:44 am

since we play totally safe, we don't even need to know your name, lets get it on!!!!!!

HedonicHeathen 51M
154 posts
12/28/2018 5:49 am

    Quoting LetsChillax:
    Gonna be all kinds of answers coming on this one I bet...
Of course you didn't clarify which even is the ideal time ... so I'd say that research has shown that most women decide within the first 15 seconds if a man is fuckable. Men gawk at that fact and not realize that strategy her eye contact can be subsumed as strategy too.

Men are the gas women are the brakes - it has been said, probably by some backseat driver. So extending that metaphor ... the vehicle traveling is the intimacy.

How soon is now?

yumehole 53F  
29 posts
12/28/2018 5:05 am

I've done 5 min. up to a couple months, prefer the 5 min.

Havelotsoffun09 58M
11 posts
12/27/2018 9:50 pm

Depends on the person and the trust and comfort level you have with each other. Sometimes, it's just automatic!

zeke53028 60M  
778 posts
12/27/2018 3:25 pm

My days of picking (or trying) up woman for sex are long gone. I much prefer getting to know someone and making a connection first. Now it's possible that can happen very quickly.

heavycummer245 48M  
3 posts
12/27/2018 3:05 pm

Depends on person. One girlfriend it was less than 30 mins after first meeting in a bar and she was sucking my cock, but we pretty much were both gagging for it that night

danthe69er 42M
75 posts
12/27/2018 2:22 pm

I agree depends on the person

sequimlooking 74M  
9 posts
12/27/2018 1:18 pm

If I'm comfortable with them I could have sex within the hour after meeting them.

silk_petal_rose 55F  
1897 posts
12/27/2018 1:15 pm

30 to 60 days....all depends.


Aquariusto69U 50M
1 post
12/27/2018 12:54 pm

The question was “the least amount of time”. My answer to that would be, at least a couple hours. That’s the least amount of time it has taken for me and a partner to be comfortable enough with each other to engage in sexual activity.

Will88066 39M
21 posts
12/27/2018 11:33 am

I think it obviously depends on the person, but it also depends on the situation. Monday morning exchange glances and smiles at the gas station. Or Friday night exchanging glances and smiles at the bar after a few cocktails.

LetsChillax 52F  
700 posts
12/27/2018 9:50 am

What a fun poll

CarpeDiem22202 56M  
337 posts
12/27/2018 8:34 am

Great Question! I personally don't subscribe to any artificial "time requirement" before sharing pleasure with someone or a couple. If the feeling is right and mutual then why wait, if it needs more time to simmer then respect that and take a bit more time, especially if all parties are into fostering more than a one time thing. FWB with a Capital "F" is great! Happy New Year All! >>! happym;

mnoral 57M  
14 posts
12/27/2018 7:22 am

It depends sometimes a little chatting or just a face to face

runnerlover79 57M  
1 post
12/27/2018 6:44 am

a few minutes, afew days. It depends on person and chemistry, and of course, timing.

jajo696 64F  
176 posts
12/27/2018 6:20 am


not into it for a hook up...im not a fly by kinda person....so i need to know the person is sincere and not nuts and not looking to satisfy an experience that they desire. That takes time and a certain connection.

gtrider28 62M  
609 posts
12/27/2018 6:16 am

I hate to fall into the same category as the majority here but it really does depend on the person. But on the other hand LOLO and time is fleeting

RobK2006 51M
4833 posts
12/27/2018 5:46 am

Hah! Ideally, I'd like to know the person for a while first, but, in the real world, if the mood strikes us both...

JMFuckon 58M  
28 posts
12/27/2018 5:00 am

Depends on person. I had it both ways.
You kinda know which way its going to go

SomewhereSE 61M
101 posts
12/27/2018 3:44 am

Long enough for them to return to their default rather than “best foot forward” behavior and to know them well enough to not make them the next “biggest mistake you’ve ever made.”

LetsChillax replies on 12/27/2018 4:50 am:

Itsosoft 30F  
2 posts
12/27/2018 2:58 am

just take it moment by moment

powercaps716 62M
8608 posts
12/27/2018 2:11 am

depends on the person

sphxdiver 69M  
20413 posts
12/26/2018 9:26 pm

A lot of different factors play into it.

Lot of it depends on the person too.

lookin4herMI 46M
93 posts
12/26/2018 8:18 pm

Depends on the person, and situation. I went on 4 dates, and multiple phone, and text conversations before I was comfortable enough to be intimate with one woman. While after weeks of texts, and phone calls with another woman it only took a couple of drinks in person before we were undressing each other as quickly as we could. Then the last woman I will mention we had a very heated conversation late one night that ended in each other’s naked embrace by morning time. For me it all depends on how comfortable I am around her, and she has a lot to do with that, mood, attitude, or just vibes she’s putting off. I don’t think there is a right amount of time, or should you put a time limit on it. Go with the flow, go with your own gut feeling, and never let someone change what you’re feeling inside. I can say I never regretted being intimate with any of these women regardless of the amount of time I did, or didn’t know them.

golfnut5469 64M  
4 posts
12/26/2018 7:42 pm

depends on where you meet them, if you meet them on a site like this, then your both on the same mind set, should be quicker, On a regular dating site, take some time, you don't know what they are after

RyuFujin 51F  
77 posts
12/26/2018 6:25 pm

It varies, as everyone is different, and every situation will be different.

You could hit it off great through emails, chats, and texts, though when you do meet face-to-face... hmm, no chemistry? It has happened.

On the flip side of that is your interactions with one another here, phone calls/texts, produce an interest, but nothing major until you meet... then WHAM!
You're struck by lightning.

One can never tell.

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azriel1970 48M  
23521 posts
12/26/2018 6:17 pm

Totally depends on the person!!!

Whaoo196370 55M
29 posts
12/26/2018 4:45 pm

When both persons are comfortable with each other .

lok4fun500 108M  
43607 posts
12/26/2018 3:31 pm

At least time for me remove my hat (s)

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xtremeblaz022 38M  
18 posts
12/26/2018 3:19 pm

It all depends on the person and the feeling that may be there. Sometimes you can just click and want to go for it. Then you have other times you want to what and learn more about the person. But most the time when you do sleep with someone right after meeting it never seems to really last.

IVFalternative 47M
244 posts
12/26/2018 3:17 pm

Within 30 seconds of sending them a dick pic.


At least, that's how I assume I'd like it to go. I'll let you know if it ever happens

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pocogato12 66F  
25526 posts
12/26/2018 3:11 pm

All kinds of scenarios!!! But trust comes first

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redrockrascal 60M
19697 posts
12/26/2018 3:11 pm

    Quoting benard69:
    There is no right answer for all...It's when you are comfortable
Yup this

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.

justskin1 67M  
10961 posts
12/26/2018 3:05 pm

I want some time to get comfortable with her and the time can vary from person to person. Certainly don't feel comfortable going from online to meeting for sex.

If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin."

I always behave. Preferably not well.

benard69 63M/63F  
4074 posts
12/26/2018 3:00 pm

There is no right answer for all...It's when you are comfortable

bitchkitty2017 66F  
2621 posts
12/26/2018 2:59 pm

voted and personally I don't feel I could just meet and get intimate as I dislike hook ups which it pretty much is ...I prefer an fwb situation as I am just widowed a couple years and am disabled because of an accident ..I want to feel a bit secure first...so far its been going good..

flaguy522 63M  
1431 posts
12/26/2018 2:59 pm

I think when both feel comfortable, have at it!!! Could be instantaneous or could take awhile.

LetsChillax 52F  
700 posts
12/26/2018 2:45 pm

Gonna be all kinds of answers coming on this one I bet...

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