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When I said I wouldn't mind seeing a shaved pussy...
Posted:May 8, 2019 12:19 am
Last Updated:May 8, 2019 3:39 am

...I didn't mean opening the door to a shaved cat.

Just a minor addition to the sometimes bizarre things I run across in the daily grind. And wasn't even the most bizarre sight of the day... I was running tasks in Seattle's Capitol Hill neighborhood, where bizarre is normal.
Meeting people
Posted:Mar 15, 2019 4:30 pm
Last Updated:Mar 30, 2019 10:45 pm

I keep being told I should go and meet people. Of course they never say WHERE i should go to try to meet people, just that I should.

I asked around a few people that are married (being that I don't know too many non-married couples) on how they met, because I really don't know how people actually do that. Probably a psychological issue on my part, but I learn from observation and mimicry, not by independently trying to do something I've never done.

First was my parents- they met at work. My Mom had given up on dating coworkers but then my dad asked her to go skiing and they were married within a year.

One set of grandparents were set up by friends. My grandfather was exactly NOT what my grandma wanted- he drank, smoked, caroused, cussed, rode motorcycles... but he was employed, which was better than the abusive family dynamic my grandmother had (alcoholic stepfather, brothers that treated her as their peral maid) so it wasn't a wonder that she got married at and dropped of . Something must have worked, they were married 64 years.

One of my friends was introduced to his current bride by his former in law (!!). Another met while on ski patrol. I've known a couple "online matchmaking" couples, though one of them didn't last long. But lots more met through work. That seemed to be the most common.

A fair of "friends introducing friends" setups let to longer-term relationships, too. Not too many sweethearts lasted long- quite a few divorces there. A handful of "oh my God pregnant" resulted in weddings, though many of those also didn't work (and it doesn't reveal how they met, only why they got hitched so quickly).

The common thing here, though, is that is all long-term, mostly married couples. People don't talk about the one time dates (whether that be hookups or just dates that didn't work out). I have one friend who tends to brag about some of his conquests- particularly running through his ex-fiancee's best friends after they broke up. He's an emotional manipulator that used his sob story about how his fiancee cheated on him with her boss to get laid.

But me... I've always thought work was a bad place to try and find someone. Maybe it's the constant sexual harassment training I've received since I was a ager, about not mixing work and dating, unwanted advances, and keeping the workplace professional. It also doesn't help that there have rarely been any women in my age (gen X) anywhere I worked, or if there were they were already married and/or seeing other women. Back when I was a mechanic, the women in the shop were almost always into other women.

I don't go to bars or clubs- for one I don't drink, and I can't stand "dance" music. I'd much rather go on a short hike, a museum, or a road trip rather than "dinner and a movie". I've said that in most of the messages I've sent but the response has always been the same- absolutely nothing. No matter what the site I was using.

So I continue to wonder.
Posted:Feb 11, 2019 12:12 am
Last Updated:Feb 20, 2019 11:20 pm

It generally doesn't drop below freezing around here for long periods- overnight, yes, but daytime highs usually get above.

Of course, we also usually don't get more than a day or 2 of snow. But last week, we had 2 snowstorms followed by almost a week of snow every day. Very unusual.

Woke up Sunday morning to go to work and had no water. I have a well, so first checked to see if the breaker had tripped. No. And no massive ice sculptures coming from the exterior pipes. Checked the pipes in the vault, and the pressure gauge showed the proper 85PSI. Opened the safety drain and yup, full pressure water there. But nothing in the house.

Figured I had a frozen pipe somewhere, probably where it goes into the house as that's a copper pipe that's outside. Insulated with a pipe heater element, but the heater is years old and probably burned out. Didn't want to risk a burst and a ice driveway, I shut off the isolation valve in the vault and went to work. Figured if I couldn't find a quick fix I was gonna have to use the shower at work until this freeze is over.

Plus I need water for the cats, so on my way home bought a gallon of bottled water. For flushing the toilet I could use the rain buckets, though they are all solid blocks of ice. Put a couple in the bathtub to thaw, since I can't use the shower anyway. Then decided to pull the insulation off the outside copper pipe to see if it had split like it did several years ago. Looked OK.

Then I had this great redneck idea to use a heat gun and try to warm the pipe with the faucet on. Propped the heat gun in the snow and set to warming the pipe.

Unbelievably, it worked. Kitchen faucet started dribbling, then built up to full pressure. No leaks either- that was dodging a bullet. So I re-wrapped the pipe, then added a bunch of old socks, towels, and topped it off with plastic bags so they don't get wet. Plus left a faucet dripping to keep flow going.

The snow is making my new job training plain weird. Can't use the normal vehicles as the management wont' let us use the 2WD vans in the snow, and we only have two AWD vehicles (out of 2 dozen). Normally they dispatch up to 10 at a time, but everything's being done with 2. Plus half the employees are too scared to drive in the snow... and I'm the trainee, and I'm still showing up. It feels weird to be a trainee again, I haven't been the low guy on the pole in 20 some years.
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Well, that's an interesting site bug...
Posted:Jan 30, 2019 3:15 am
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2019 9:45 pm

One of the first things I do when I go to the blog page is click "Where I'm Quoted". This shows most (not all) of the replies I get to replies I made on other prople's blogs.

So I have this long, drawn out response from a particular per who loves giving me bad advice. I go to that particular blog entry...

...the reply doesn't exist. My reply is there. Lots of replies. Including a couple from that same user. Just... not the one that quoted me.

Hm. I assume what happened is the original poster (the blog owner) deleted the reply, being that it was intended to be insulting and perhaps a bit argumentative, but for some rea I can still see the reply in my list of Where I'm Quoted. Just not in the blog itself.

I guess that's for the best, as I was already a bit spun up over the insult, but since I can't reply to it that's a good way to cool off.

I did notice that the site bug shows up in more than one way. If I click that particular user's "posts" link it shows each blog entry he has replied to (and the number of replies made of more than one) . But the vast majority, there are no replies from that user visible. So the replies are still indexed, just not visible whenever someone deletes a reply. I noticed that a while back when I wanted to check replies to a blog I'd made, but then found my OWN response had been deleted even though the list said I'd made a reply. In that case, though, I'd apparently been banned by a particular user. Not sure why that user banned me (I didn't say anything to her that was remotely offensive or sexual, just a comment germane to the blog post itself) but I can't view her blog anymore so evidently I got banned.
Oh how I hate blackberries...
Posted:Jan 27, 2019 1:23 am
Last Updated:Mar 12, 2019 10:00 pm

The weather decided to be completely non-winterlike. I was going to go for a hike, but then looked at the yard. I thought I should try and make a go of uprooting the quarter-acre worth of blackberries I've been fighting on and off for the last 8 years. Mainly because I'm starting a new job next month which means I won't have any TIME to uproot blackberries.

Himalayan Blackberry vines are the scourge of the earth, they reproduce via seeds, cuttings, re-rooting, and probably mitosis. They grow year-round, though are fairly dormant in the winter. In the summer the things can grow a foot a day. When the stalks die, they become harder, but the thorns sharper and more brittle.

It only took an hour for me to have a pile 6 feet tall, 8 feet in diameter piled by the burn pit, but of course everything is too wet to catch fire. I'm slowly unearthing the area that had once been my carport (it partially blew down Halloween 2014, I pulled the rest down the next day with my truck). The rotten logs that had once been the carport posts have rotted to the point that they'll only be removed by shovel and wheelbarrow. But to get to that, blackberry vines. And more blackberry vines.

My legs look like I'd been in a fight with a mountain lion. When did denim jeans become so flimsy? The material is so thin. And I broke my lops. Again. Hard to find good, lightweight anvil loppers nowadays, everyone sells shear type which are terrible for blackberries. Just the handle, I patched it before, can fix it again.

I'd like to clear the area by the stump in the corner of the property, but last year there was a bear hibernating there and I really, REALLY don't want to disturb a black bear in my yard.
Posted:Jan 22, 2019 2:29 am
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2019 9:45 pm

There was an episode of the British comedy sci-fi series "Red Dwarf" called "Psirens" where the crew ran across an asteroid field populated by genetically engineered lifeforms who would use victim's fantasies to lure them to crash so the psirens could suck out their brains. The more simple the victim, the simpler the ruse. For the simplest crewmember the lure of hot, nymphomaniac vixens looking for someone to inseminate them was enough of a lure.

Sound familiar?
In trying other sites
Posted:Jan 16, 2019 3:27 pm
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2019 9:45 pm

Having let my gold membership here lapse, I decided to try out other sites to see if I could improve my methods of finding someone to at least TRY to make a connection. very new to the online dating thing, so many people have been doing so for decades now, but I always shied away from it.

I didn't even have my profile on the next site written before the flood of messages came in. Every one from "women" nowhere near my location, and every message was either "Hi!" or "Hi There!". Real helpful. One or 2 word messages. When I signed up HERE, of course I couldn't read the full messages but at least they had more than 2 words.

Now, I don't respond to 1 or 2 word messages from 1500+ miles away, but I sat on the messages for a day or so. Much to my surprise (sarcasm) most of those profiles didn't exist the next day.

Well, that's a pretty good weeding technique. I'd gotten 13 messages the first 3 hours. ONE was still a live profile the next day. Wow.

But the real kicker is, after that initial flood of messages, I've gotten zero since. That's sort of the same situation I had here, where I got a bunch of messages the first day and then crickets, but I guess that comes with the territory. Scammers looking for new blood I guess.

Anyhow, the "other" site doesn't have any way to interact outside of messaging, no blogs or forum boards, or anything really. But being it's only the third site I've tried, i guess I just have to sample until i find one that suits my style, if any.
As the year comes to a close...
Posted:Dec 27, 2018 4:18 am
Last Updated:Feb 1, 2019 10:48 am

So, my one month Gold membership is about to end. I was able to tell the difference between "Standard" and "Gold" and yes, if you want to use any of the site's official messaging services at all Gold is the only way to go. For blogging, Standard membership is just fine, so maybe I'll stick around for the blogs. But spending the money just to get IM requests from bots and messages from camgirls is simply not worth it to me. The only conversations I've had of any substance have been right here in the blogs, and that I can do for free. The only thing I'll miss is being able to view profiles.

Yes, I did send messages to multiple members. I tried to use that feature to it's fullest. I got one reply; saying I was too far away. When there are so few members nearby, I didn't think 75 miles was too far but I've seen a lot of profiles claiming that is too far. Some say 25 miles is too far. The rest of the messages I got no response at all.

It's become quite clear to me that I won't find what I'm looking for here. In fact, I've been told that multiple times by multiple people of both genders. I've been told I'm too picky, too insecure, to open, or even too honest (though the guy that said that is the poster of toxic masculinity). That my lack of confidence was far too apparent.

I've also had some good feedback.

When the New Year comes, perhaps I'll try the standard dating sites. I don't expect much there either... I mean, I'm not going to lie on a profile no matter how much some people say "that's part of the game". It's not a game for me. I don't like toying with people, I don't like using people. I'm me, take it or leave it.

I suppose I will take some of the less I've learned here on to my next attempts somewhere else. Maybe what to leave out of a profile. It still sort of feels like lying through omission, since one thing people seem to look for is experience. And that's just not something I bring to the table. This was all new to me, crazy as that sounds.

If anyone has any suggestions of other sites to try, I'm all ears.
Maybe I should go looking in a church.
Posted:Dec 15, 2018 1:11 am
Last Updated:Dec 28, 2018 5:20 pm

I'd made a comment in a prior blog about being surprised how many "Kink" friendly gals had "Catholic" listed as their religion. An interesting comment was about how Catholicism was replete with torture... well, at least a bit sadistic with all the kneeling and standing and the darker bits of the ceremony. I certainly remember that, especially the "Catholic Calisthenics" we endured during Holy Week (Let Us Stand.... Let Us Kneel... Let Us Stand... Let Us Kneel...)

I grew up Catholic. Went to Catholic school all the way through HS graduation. I was an altar boy, and sang in the choir. But I found myself slipping away from the church because I found it so hypocritical. Its stance on homosexuality, when so many of the clergy were themselves of that orientation. Its completely asinine stance on birth control. The coverups of corruption. Pope Benedict didn't make me feel any better about the future of the church, and I haven't stepped foot in a Catholic church in close to 20 years. In fact, I think I've been inside any church at all maybe 3 or so times since then, I can count 2 weddings and a funeral.

Catholicism is not a majority religion here in the US. In fact it sits behind "unaffiliated" (non religious) by as much as 3 percentage points. It's even smaller here in the State of Washington, where it's about 17% of the population.

That said, as I peruse local ladies' profiles here, I've been astounded that well over 50% list Catholic under Religion. Statistically, that's quite an anomaly. If I were just checking out Hispanic profiles that would make sense, but I really don't see very many of those (a few, just not many).

So it seems it would be a very strange thing to try to find single ladies NOT looking for marriage nor exclusivity among the congregation. It almost seems a devilish thing to do, really. Like a wolf in sheep's clothing, stalking his prey. I don't want spiritual guidance in my life, as I don't take things on faith and with religion, faith is everything.
Too picky?
Posted:Dec 10, 2018 3:20 am
Last Updated:Dec 19, 2018 3:39 pm

I've had a couple people say I'm being too picky. That I'm limiting myself to this "perfect" spectre of a per that doesn't exist.

I have a problem with that. I don't understand WHY people think I'm being too picky. For one thing, none of the people that have said things of that nature would I be able to meet anyway. Distance, for one rea, or the people saying that are not interested in meeting anyone, let alone me.

I've been trying to go through my own blogs and replies I've made on other blogs to see where the idea I was too picky came from. I'm just not seeing it. Perhaps I am too picky, I just don't know.

So here are some of my criteria I look for:

1) Local. I do limit my search to within around 200 miles. There's a real rea behind that- I am NOT a sucker that's going to fall for the "send me money for the plane" trick, so it's rather pointless to look at profiles too far away for a day trip. I have pets. They have medications.

2) Marital Status. I don't care what kind of site this is, I'm not looking for a married woman. Which is why I don't have "couples" listed in my profile. Look, I get it, there are people with open marriages and I don't have a problem with that, but I don't want to have anything to do with someone's marital drama.

3) Smoking and drugs. I'm a non-smoker, a non-drinker, and I don't touch recreational drugs. I can tolerate people that drink responsibly. But when it comes to smoking, I have to draw the line. Seeing people smoke makes me physically ill. Even talking about it makes me nauseous. Unfortunately so many interesting profiles I've looked at are of smokers. Recreational drugs are a no-go for me as well.

4) Physical attributes: This is where I say I am a bit shallow. My profile says 31-49. That's not a hard limit, but I found that having the age limit set lower I was getting a lot of scam messages and changing it made them all but disappear. The upper limit... I'm just not ready to date grandmas yet. And yes, that's probably an unfair stereotype because I actually know people younger than me that have grands. They just don't look the part. As far as body type, pretty much as long as she doesn't outweigh me.

Is that too much? Are my standards too high and lofty? I don't think they are.
Posted:Dec 5, 2018 6:04 pm
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2018 9:18 am

I've worn glasses since I was 15. Realized I couldn't read the overhead projector in school. Took another 15 years to find an optometrist that figured out that it was astigmatism, not focal correction, that worked. Oh, what a difference that made.

Of course, as I age, I'll need reading glasses someday. Already to the point I can't read with my glasses on. Shrinking arm syndrome.

As a side bonus I can go outside in a freezing windstorm and not get my eyeballs blasted by cold air. The flip side is, walking in from the cold I get blinded by the fog.

I've gotten so used to them, that I'll take them off and immediately poke myself in the eye trying to adjust the glasses that are now in my other hand. Did that at the barber shop the other day.

One would think, though, after almost 30 years wearing glasses I'd remember to take them off before getting in the shower.
Revisiting what I'm looking for
Posted:Dec 3, 2018 12:44 am
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2018 3:02 am

I've come to the realization that it's hard to find what I'm looking for when I can't even define what that is.

So I had to think about it for a while. What I'm really looking for is a Friend With Benefits type of relationship. Basically someone I could hang out with in both sexual and non sexual circumstances, but at the end of the day (or night) can go home to our respective abodes. i don't require monogamy. I'd rather keep it casual enough where celebrating "anniversaries" isn't a thing. I'm not looking for a lifetime commitment.

Not everything revolves around sex. I actually like getting out, but it gets rather boring getting out by myself. I like to hike, I like to explore, I like museums and parks and long drives to obscure locations. But is that something that "FWB" people do? Or are those the kinds of things that only people in serious relationships do? I don't know. I've done some of those things with my friend friends.

The problem of course is trying to avoid an emotional attachment. I am always going to have an emotional connection- I cannot turn off my emotions. I can bottle them, but that's not always the best course of action. The problem then becomes developing feelings. I've already experienced what it's like to get feelings for someone who is not mutually attracted. So the risk of developing feelings for someone who has shared intimacy with is a real possibility.

I was asked what was wrong with just looking for a casual hookup. It's a valid question, since it is true that there's this "itch I want to scratch". It is rather hard to look for that sort of encounter when almost all the profiles I look at say they aren't looking for a one time thing. Women don't want to be a 5-minute cum receptacle. I never thought anyone did, unless they were being paid by the hour. That's not what I'm looking for either. I've had people suggest I head to Nevada and find the hottest girl i can afford, but that's out of the question right now. Perhaps that's the only way I'll ever find someone willing to teach me (and I really do have a lot to learn).

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