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Train humans the animal trainer way...
Posted:Sep 5, 2007 1:09 pm
Last Updated:Jul 5, 2019 5:00 am
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Many people use the wrong technique to train others. This animal training technique works, as many have shown. A repeat of a previous post to save lots of pain and suffering:

Humans are animals and the methods of animal trainers work on people. So reinforce good behaviors and ignore the bad. Nagging does not work. Makes sense to me! Accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative:

What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage
By AMY SUTHERLAND
AS I wash dishes at the kitchen sink, my husband paces behind me, irritated. "Have you seen my keys?" he snarls, then huffs out a loud sigh and stomps from the room with our dog, Dixie, at his heels, anxious over her favorite human's upset.

In the past I would have been right behind Dixie. I would have turned off the faucet and joined the hunt while trying to soothe my husband with bromides like, "Don't worry, they'll turn up." But that only made him angrier, and a simple case of missing keys soon would become a full-blown angst-ridden drama starring the two of us and our poor nervous dog.

Now, I focus on the wet dish in my hands. I don't turn around. I don't say a word. I'm using a technique I learned from a dolphin trainer.

I love my husband. He's well read, adventurous and does a hysterical rendition of a northern Vermont accent that still cracks me up after 12 years of marriage.

But he also tends to be forgetful, and is often tardy and mercurial. He hovers around me in the kitchen asking if I read this or that piece in The New Yorker when I'm trying to concentrate on the simmering pans. He leaves wadded tissues in his wake. He suffers from serious bouts of spousal deafness but never fails to hear me when I mutter to myself on the other side of the house. "What did you say?" he'll shout.

These minor annoyances are not the stuff of separation and divorce, but in sum they began to dull my love for Scott. I wanted – needed – to nudge him a little closer to perfect, to make him into a mate who might annoy me a little less, who wouldn't keep me waiting at restaurants, a mate who would be easier to love.

So, like many wives before me, I ignored a library of advice books and set about improving him. By nagging, of course, which only made his behavior worse: he'd drive faster instead of slower; shave less frequently, not more; and leave his reeking bike garb on the bedroom floor longer than ever.

We went to a counselor to smooth the edges off our marriage. She didn't understand what we were doing there and complimented us repeatedly on how well we communicated. I gave up. I guessed she was right – our union was better than most – and resigned myself to stretches of slow-boil resentment and occasional sarcasm.

Then something magical happened. For a book I was writing about a school for exotic animal trainers, I started commuting from Maine to California, where I spent my days watching students do the seemingly impossible: teaching hyenas to pirouette on command, cougars to offer their paws for a nail clipping, and baboons to skateboard.

I listened, rapt, as professional trainers explained how they taught dolphins to flip and elephants to paint. Eventually it hit me that the same techniques might work on that stubborn but lovable species, the American husband.

The central les I learned from exotic animal trainers is that I should reward behavior I like and ignore behavior I don't. After all, you don't get a sea lion to balance a ball on the end of its nose by nagging. The same goes for the American husband.

Back in Maine, I began thanking Scott if he threw one dirty shirt into the hamper. If he threw in two, I'd kiss him. Meanwhile, I would step over any soiled clothes on the floor without one sharp word, though I did sometimes kick them under the bed. But as he basked in my appreciation, the piles became smaller.

I was using what trainers call "approximations," rewarding the small steps toward learning a whole new behavior. You can't expect a baboon to learn to flip on command in one session, just as you can't expect an American husband to begin regularly picking up his dirty socks by praising him once for picking up a single sock. With the baboon you first reward a hop, then a bigger hop, then an even bigger hop. With Scott the husband, I began to praise every small act every time: if he drove just a mile an hour slower, tossed one pair of shorts into the hamper, or was on time for anything.

I also began to analyze my husband the way a trainer considers an exotic animal. Enlightened trainers learn all they can about a species, from anatomy to social structure, to understand how it thinks, what it likes and dislikes, what comes easily to it and what doesn't. For example, an elephant is a herd animal, so it responds to hierarchy. It cannot jump, but can stand on its head. It is a vegetarian.

The exotic animal known as Scott is a loner, but an alpha male. So hierarchy matters, but being in a group doesn't so much. He has the balance of a gymnast, but moves slowly, especially when getting dressed. Skiing comes naturally, but being on time does not. He's an omnivore, and what a trainer would call food-driven.

Once I started thinking this way, I couldn't stop. At the school in California, I'd be scribbling notes on how to walk an emu or have a wolf accept you as a pack member, but I'd be thinking, "I can't wait to try this on Scott."

On a field trip with the students, I listened to a professional trainer describe how he had taught African crested cranes to stop landing on his head and shoulders. He did this by training the leggy birds to land on mats on the ground. This, he explained, is what is called an "incompatible behavior," a simple but brilliant concept.

Rather than teach the cranes to stop landing on him, the trainer taught the birds something else, a behavior that would make the undesirable behavior impossible. The birds couldn't alight on the mats and his head simultaneously.

At home, I came up with incompatible behaviors for Scott to keep him from crowding me while I cooked. To lure him away from the stove, I piled up parsley for him to chop or cheese for him to grate at the other end of the kitchen island. Or I'd set out a bowl of chips and salsa across the room. Soon I'd done it: no more Scott hovering around me while I cooked.

I followed the students to SeaWorld San Diego, where a dolphin trainer introduced me to least reinforcing syndrome (L. R. S.). When a dolphin does something wrong, the trainer doesn't respond in any way. He stands still for a few beats, careful not to look at the dolphin, and then returns to work. The idea is that any response, positive or negative, fuels a behavior. If a behavior provokes no response, it typically dies away.

In the margins of my notes I wrote, "Try on Scott!"

It was only a matter of time before he was again tearing around the house searching for his keys, at which point I said nothing and kept at what I was doing. It took a lot of discipline to maintain my calm, but results were immediate and stunning. His temper fell far shy of its usual pitch and then waned like a fast-moving storm. I felt as if I should throw him a mackerel.

Now he's at it again; I hear him banging a closet door shut, rustling through papers on a chest in the front hall and thumping upstairs. At the sink, I hold steady. Then, sure enough, all goes quiet. A moment later, he walks into the kitchen, keys in hand, and says calmly, "Found them."

Without turning, I call out, "Great, see you later."

Off he goes with our much-calmed pup.

After two years of exotic animal training, my marriage is far smoother, my husband much easier to love. I used to take his faults perally; his dirty clothes on the floor were an affront, a symbol of how he didn't care enough about me. But thinking of my husband as an exotic species gave me the distance I needed to consider our differences more objectively.

I adopted the trainers' motto: "It's never the animal's fault." When my training attempts failed, I didn't blame Scott. Rather, I brainstormed new strategies, thought up more incompatible behaviors and used smaller approximations. I dissected my own behavior, considered how my actions might inadvertently fuel his. I also accepted that some behaviors were too entrenched, too instinctive to train away. You can't stop a badger from digging, and you can't stop my husband from losing his wallet and keys.

PROFESSIONALS talk of animals that understand training so well they eventually use it back on the trainer. My animal did the same. When the training techniques worked so beautifully, I couldn't resist telling my husband what I was up to. He wasn't offended, just amused. As I explained the techniques and terminology, he soaked it up. Far more than I realized.

Last fall, firmly in middle age, I learned that I needed braces. They were not only humiliating, but also excruciating. For weeks my gums, teeth, jaw and sinuses throbbed. I complained frequently and loudly. Scott assured me that I would become used to all the metal in my mouth. I did not.

One morning, as I launched into yet another tirade about how uncomfortable I was, Scott just looked at me blankly. He didn't say a word or acknowledge my rant in any way, not even with a nod.

I quickly ran out of steam and started to walk away. Then I realized what was happening, and I turned and asked, "Are you giving me an L. R. S.?" Silence. "You are, aren't you?"

He finally smiled, but his L. R. S. has already done the trick. He'd begun to train me, the American wife.
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Being good in bed...
Posted:Sep 11, 2007 11:39 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2019 8:35 am
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My view is that the media and porn have sold people a false notion of what makes good sex! Being young and pretty or handsome is nice, but if you do not have the right stuff then the sex will be subpar.

So what makes a woman good in bed for me? Many things!

1. A sexy attitude is the key thing! She has to like herself, enjoy her body and enjoy mine. She needs to like kissing, stroking and playing. She needs some energy, some flexibility and the desire to enjoy sex and share pleasure for as long as we have! Being a passive corpse is deadening...

2. A little technique is great, but she does not have to memorize the Kama Sutra or try ninety positions. Five or six positions will do fine...

3. Kissing is important as it expresses affection and lust, and leads to intimacy...

4. Oral sex is fab for expressing acceptance of your lover's sex organ and for natural lubrication.

5. Stroking each other and using a vibrator can be very fun activities which transform foreplay into orgasms!

6. Being open to play is great. Being creative and trying new things can be terrific fun. For example, adding a vibrator on her clit while having intercourse can transform the sex into something even more amazing.

7. Having the woman suck on the man's nipples can be a turnon and show she is fun and not stuck on stereotypes about human sex behavior. Dirty talk, moaning and noises can be fun...

8. Having the patience to keep playing even after a few orgasms can allow both to really get into the sex. There are lots of fun things to try: G spot massage, fisting, standing up, using the bathroom counter top for a support surface, etc. Sometimes I enjoy playing with food, a dildo, foot massage, or trying different lubes...

9. A sexy woman is also willing to touch her own clit while we are having sex, or to masturbate in front of me. She also likes to watch me touch myself. Sex is best when the inhibitions are shed with the clothing...

10. Anal sex can be fun, with lube, taking things slowly and not being too pushy until the partner relaxes into it. Condoms make things more sanitary and safer. Have not yet had a female use a strapon on me, but that might be fun sometime! Anal is not a must, but only for those who enjoy it...

11. With the proper desire and attitude great sex is shared! Having a hot attractive bod and pretty face is great, but having a sexy attitude and hot desire for your partner is the key!
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Kegel exercises for men and women!
Posted:Sep 7, 2007 7:59 am
Last Updated:Apr 26, 2019 7:47 am
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Another important educational post worth rereading, as the sex life you improve is your own!

The PC muscles need strengthening for men and women to have the best sex! A repeat of an earlier blog to remind everyone to kegel regularly!

Kegel exercises serve to tone and strengthen the pubococcygeus or "PC" muscles which form the floor of the pelvis. The health of these muscles plays a vitally important role in sexual arousal and climax, as well as in other aspects of bodily functioning.

Why should men do kegel exercises regularly?

kegel exercises increase the bloodflow to the genital area, and so support sexual arousal mechanisms.

kegel exercises strengthen and tone the muscles that are involved in ejaculation, and so men who Kegel can, if they do some additional work with themselves, gain greater control over the timing of their ejaculations.

kegel exercises prevent incontinence and other problems that are often associated with aging.
Why should women do kegel exercises regularly?

kegel exercises increase the bloodflow to the genital area, and so support sexual arousal mechanisms.

kegel exercises strengthen and tone the muscles of the vaginal canal, and so women who Kegel can, if vaginal stimulation is their choice, and if they do some additional work on themselves, improve their capacity to orgasm by means of vaginal play, in terms of both the intensity and the frequency of their orgasming.

kegel exercises are essential to the treatment of sexual difficulties such as vaginismus and dyspareunia (pain on vaginal intercourse).

kegel exercises prevent incontinence, prolapses, and many other problems of the pelvic floor that are often associated with aging.

kegel exercises strengthen and tone the musculature of the pelvic area in a way that can make vaginal delivery during birth easier.
How do I find my PC muscles?

go to the bathroom and sit on the toilet (men, it is also a good idea to sit for this).

in the middle of your stream of urine, stop and start the stream several times. The muscles you use to do this are your PC muscles. At first, you may find that you are also squeezing your anal muscles; as you become experienced with kegel exercises, try to separate out the muscle groups that you are able to exercise by squeezing.
How do I do regular kegel exercises?

now that you have located your PC muscles, you can exercise them while your bladder is completely empty.

first, try squeezing your PC muscles as hard as you can for a count of three seconds. Then let them relax. To begin with, see how many times you can do this before the muscles feel tired.

now figure out a suitable exercise routine just as you would if you were trying to tone and strengthen a different muscle group by going to the gym every other day. For example, suppose you start by being able to do only five strong squeezes; try doing three sets of five once or twice a day for a week, and then try increasing this to three sets of eight strong squeezes.

if you work up to three sets of thirty or more strong squeezes, you are probably healthy enough for most purposes, and need only to maintain this level of fitness by doing these three sets four times a week (instead of once or twice a day).

we also recommend that you experiment by varying the type and timing of the PC squeezing you do as you train these muscles: slow clenches, many quick flutters, and so on. This will make you more familiar with these muscles ‒ notice also when your abdominal muscles or your anal muscles feel like they also want to join in the exercise.

remember, you should try to separate out kegel exercises from anal squeezing. If you are in doubt, go back a refind your PC muscle while urinating.

once you are skilled at kegel exercises, you should be able to do them without anyone else knowing what you are doing... boring meetings at work, tedious lectures at conferences, and other daily events all become opportunities to work quietly on improving your sexual health!
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Why stay if the sex is inadequate?
Posted:Nov 1, 2007 11:12 am
Last Updated:Nov 13, 2014 5:04 am
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Many cannot seem to wrap their minds around the concept of a couple staying together even if the sex is not sufficient for one of the couple.

As I have thought about this subject over the last decade or so, allow me to explain.

I am not trying to sell anyone anything. I do not crave your endorsement or ask for approval or disapproval. There is no need to judge me or condemn me.

From what I see most marriages have inadequate sex for one or both partners after a period of time. Ask around and see. Many marriages have little or no sex. Some enjoy other activities and some do not.

My marriage has some sex, sometimes not for a week or two, then sometimes once or twice a week. I share many things values with my spouse. But I desire hot sex daily, and many types of sex that she is unwilling to do.

I have no rea to condemn or reject her just because she is different from me. I accept her as she is and have given up trying to convert her to my way of thinking.

I also recognize that some crave variety and some do not. Some are willing to take a risk and some are not.

While many will condemn me for seeking what is considered "cheating" or "adultery", one can also look at the situation from the opposite point of view. I stick with a woman who loves me and I love, despite the fact that she is not providing me with the sexual satisfaction I crave. I have sacrificed my desires for many years, to please her and to make sure our grew up in a stable household, which I believe is best to nurture a .

I also do not agree with those who espouse total honesty with a spouse as that only hurts the feelings of the non-cheating spouse. She knows I have "strayed" and has forgiven my transgressions; "don't ask, don't tell" is what we both prefer.

Those who wish to be less discreet are welcome to do so, but in my experience most people cannot handle the jealousy and fear.

While some will condemn my dishonesty, another viewpoint is that I must bear the guilt and the secrecy to preserve and protect an illusion that is comforting to my spouse. I do what she prefers, even though she refuses to do what I prefer.

Freud noted that many times in human affairs there are multiple reas that explain actions. Things are "over-directed" to the same conclusion.

I will also note that I stay for the companionship, because I am used to the situation, we get along well, we share many things including a , and apart from the sex, many things are truly fine in our relationship.

One does not throw out a relationship that has only one failing, even if the failing is an important one like sex.

My cynical side also assumes that any other marriage would eventually also exhibit the same problem that monogamy engenders, boredom or a desire for variety of "strange" sex organs attached to a new partner.

Those who do not understand the above, please feel free to ignore it and withhold hostile rants. Those who can relate to what I am saying, feel free to express sympathetic sounds...
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My distilled reas for sex
Posted:Aug 6, 2008 5:17 am
Last Updated:Jun 23, 2019 12:42 pm
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The 237 reas given to have sex seemed to have many repetitions and variations on the same idea. So I have distilled them down to 50 reas, including a few new ones I added based on my experience and observations:

50 distilled Reas to have sex:

Hospitality: Eskimos lend a wife to a traveler;

To gossip about: To have something to tell or write about;

Curiosity: curious about new lover, new position, what feels like, new gender, non-intercourse (anal, oral), multiple partners, bigger dick.

Health: relieve tension, headache, cramps, “blue balls”, burn calories, exercise, improve prostate, help fall asleep, stay warm

Self emotional state: feel powerful, want attention, act out fantasy, feel older, feel younger, feel better about self, enjoy life, get over an ex lover, to lose inhibitions, end virgin status;

Revenge: to get back at cheating mate, hurt an enemy, give someone a STD, make someone else jealous;

Work: to get sex off brain, so can work more;

Coercion: fear physical injury unless comply, pressured, verbally harassed, felt too guilty to deny other’s request;

Impaired condition: unable to control self because drunk/drugged;

Sex addict: compelled to have sex for psych reas;

Love: to express love and affection to partner, become one with partner, feel intimacy, share the pleasure;

Avoid other tasks: to avoid chores, change topic of conversation, stop nagging;

Break relationship: end your own or break up another’s;

Alter status: end virgin status, rebel against parents/teachers, closure on relationship, lower your MenNation.com purity score;

Habit: expected to have sex with partner, so just do it;

Power: to dominate another, possess them, a conquest, submission or feel dominated;

Spiritual: to feel God, one with the universe, spiritual act, Tantric sex practices;

Obligated: feel duty to do it, married;

Punished: feel desire to be degraded and humiliated, or degrade other;

Pleasure: for fun, experiment with new positions or partners, for excitement or adventure;

Communicate: to say “sorry”, “thank you”, return a favor;

Celebration: for anniversary, birthday, for holiday, for big win;

Partner stealing: to trap someone, or steal another’s partner;

Sex identity validation: to reaffirm or test sexual orientation;

Reciprocate: to pay back for a fancy dinner, jewelry, gifts, money, to reward him for making me laugh;

Aroused: Aroused by partner’s looks, perality, good kisser, dancer, intelligence, humor, caresses

Challenge: A bet, competition among friends, dared, “out of league” success;

Mercy fuck: to lift their spirits, not want to disappoint them, help them forget problems ( “broken man” ) , feel sorry for problems;

Reproduction: want , ovulating, genetic imperative;

Royalty: need male heir to pass on royal line, leave ancestral house or business to an heir;

Partner pacify: keep partner happy, make partner spend time with you, partner insist;

Social status: fit in with friends, to brag, initiation rite, hurt rep if said no, be popular, sex with a celebrity, notch in your belt;

money: for money, job or promotion, casting couch, return a favor or be owed a favor;

Married: obligation, duty;

Bored: filling time, thing to do, just happened;

Reaffirm life: after funeral or 9/11 trauma to feel alive;

Going to war: to feel alive, leave offspring, not die a virgin;

To affect partner: To make partner desire you, make partner envious, make partner feel good, relaxed, or sexy;

Make-up sex: to reaffirm bond after fight or end an argument;

Artistic inspiration: Sought experience for writing, painting;

Retain potency: use it or lose it;

To improve skills: Practice with more experienced partner to learn new skills;

Acting: in porn, movies or theater;

Lost control: intended to just kiss and got carried away, raging hormones, or felt too “horny” to stop;

To Swing: To please partner by swinging, or to enjoy an alternative lifestyle.

To allow partner to be a voyeur: to let partner see you have sex with someone else for partner’s gratification.

Leader ordered: In a cult and the leader ordered the sex;

Testing powers: To see how many orgasms each per could have in a set time period;

Nostalgia: to recapture youthful feeling;

To be able to harm someone: have sex so you can ruin partner's reputation or injure your own, or transmit an STD;

Daily sex: Minister suggested to improve relationship.
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Mexico naturalized citizens who leave
Posted:Jul 16, 2019 6:42 am
Last Updated:Jul 17, 2019 11:45 am
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Article 37 of the Mexican Constitution provides naturalized citizens lose their citizenship if they stay outside Mexico for five years. Lots of people do not know this fact.

I have a who was a naturalized citizen of Mexico but stayed away for more than five years. DHS wants to deport him to Mexico, but they will not take him so he will probably get to stay in the U.S. You cannot ship them out if the other country will not take them....
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Go back home
Posted:Jul 14, 2019 8:35 pm
Last Updated:Jul 16, 2019 6:38 am
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Trump’s attack on lawmakers appeared to be meant for members of the so-called squad, of liberal Democratic freshmen: Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez of New York, Ilhan Omar of Minnesota, Rashida Tlaib of Michigan and Ayanna S. Pressley of Massachusetts.

But of the women, Ms. Omar, is from Somalia, the only one born outside the United States. Ms. Ocasio-Cortez was born in the Bronx of parents of Puerto Rican descent. Ms. Pressley is black, born in Cincinnati and raised in Chicago. Ms. Tlaib was born in Detroit of Palestinian immigrants. They are all U.S. citizens.

Trump is being racist, sexist and again. The country they belong in is the U.S. They are not citizens of other countries.

Everyone in North America came from other places, including the Indians; from Asia.

We need the workers and their talents to keep the economy growing. The old white guys will get for Social Security and Medicare from worker's taxes.

Trump continues be a moron and fool.
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Bad attitude
Posted:Jul 13, 2019 5:39 am
Last Updated:Jul 14, 2019 5:35 am
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Car dealers and car salesmen have gotten distracted so they cannot perform their function of selling vehicles. I have a specific set of options I want and when I find the car that fits I run into a wall of problems. The dealer thinks I have to buy. I don't.

They want a high price when they are stuck more than me. I can wait. If the deal is not a fair one, I just do not buy. So they can wait for someone forced to over pay. Not me.

Same goes for sex. If my proposed partner in crime is too difficult or expensive I do not agree. It is hard to g me, and criminal, so sex does not happen. Some day it might, but we will see.... The power to say no. And then to walk.
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weight lifting to live longer and better
Posted:Jul 11, 2019 7:07 am
Last Updated:Jul 12, 2019 1:31 pm
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Two new studies show that weight lifting of moderate amounts twice a week helps most live longer and healthier lives. I do that twice a week and feel better that way.

The first study analysis of the link between strength, muscle mass, and mortality, from a team at Indiana University using data from the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey. The design was pretty straightforward: They assessed 4,440 adults ages 50 or up who had their strength and muscle mass assessed between 1999 and 2002. The researchers checked back in 20 to see who had died.

To measure muscle mass, they used a DEXA scanner to determine that 23 percent of the subjects met one definition of “low muscle mass,” with total muscle in the arms and legs adding up to less than 43.5 pounds in men or 33 pounds in women. For muscle strength, they used a device that measures maximum force of the knee extensors (the muscles that allow you to straighten your leg) and found that 19 percent of the subjects had low muscle strength.

The results, published in Medicine and Science in Sports and Exercise, found that those with low muscle strength and low muscle mass were 2.66 times as likely to have died during the follow-up period than those with normal muscle strength and mass.

The other study took aim at the perception that strength training is an afterthought in public health guidelines. Most of us remember that we’re supposed to get at least 0 minutes of moderate exercise or 75 minutes of vigorous exercise per week. Reams of data support the beneficial health effects of hitting this goal. But the guidelines also suggest doing “strength-promoting exercise” at least twice a week—a clause that’s often forgotten and the benefits of which are usually framed in terms of avoiding frailty and improving quality of life, rather than extending life.

Researchers in Australia analyzed data from 80,000 adults in England and Scotland who completed surveys about their physical activity patterns starting in the 1990s. The headline result was those who reported doing any strength training were 23 percent less likely to die during the study period and 31 percent less likely to die of cancer.
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Another bad salesman
Posted:Jul 9, 2019 3:18 pm
Last Updated:Jul 11, 2019 7:22 am
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I dislike being lied to by salesmen. Trying to buy a new car has been annoying.

I have been lied to so often I think they are trying to compete with the liar in chief who past 10,000 lies since Jan 21, 20.

I have been told they had the vehicle I wanted when it was already sold. I have been told they will lose if they sell $3,000 off sticker when some dealers are still making a profit at $6,000 off sticker. I have been told my car is not available months after I had a special order and a $1,000 deposit. I have been lied to about my trade in. First I was offered $10,500 then only $7,500.

I could go on, but you get the point. The car business has deteriorated along with the rest of the infrastructure. Liars are taking over the world.

No wonder people keep driving the cars they own to avoid the pain of the car deal.
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Other hassles
Posted:Jul 9, 2019 3:10 pm
Last Updated:Jul 11, 2019 7:17 am
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Cable companies are irritating. That is not new info. I will not name names to protect the guilty.

Spock we will them. The salesman sold me on an ultra plan with 400 mbps to support streaming a TV and a computer. Then the service installer tells me 100 mbps is plenty.

So I try to downgrade. No deal without the security number, so have to wait a month. They will raise the cost and service without the precious number, but now they need it.

So the new bill has the magic number and I . They make me wait an hour to downgrade, upgrade service is immediate. Ultra costs another $20 a month.

I asked to have the $50 ultra charge to install ultra removed. Impossible despite their fraud in selling me something I did not need. In their defense they replaced the modem with a better one. Now they do not lease the modem with a monthly fee, the price of the internet service includes a $ a month modem fee which you even if you buy a modem yourself.

They prorated the upgrade charge to 400 mbps, but will not prorate the downgrade lesser charge. So the new internet rate as of July 9 is 200 mbps, but the $20 monthly fee 400 mbps ultra fee stays until the end of July!

So they lie about what I need to charge more, then their own service guy spills the beans. They demand their secret number to downgrade but not to upgrade and charge more. When caught cheating they will not undue the extra expense. They keep charging more 400 mbps services they do not provide 22 days after told to stop. Spock wonders why people hate cable companies.

Then they want a recommendation excellent service!
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scams
Posted:Jul 9, 2019 2:51 pm
Last Updated:Jul 11, 2019 7:12 am
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Sadly two MenNation.com women tried to scam me recently. So I pass on the less to learn from.

First claimed to be in Los Angeles, then said she was in Georgia, USA three months. I am not interested in paying her way to LA.

Second needed a $0 gift card to her agent to gain permission to see her. Sounds like , except I do not think she would show up after I , so not sex when there is no sex happening.

Lots of work to not get a happy ending or even a happy start. Dating is tough.

So I just said "no".
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Whack a mole sex drive
Posted:Jul 8, 2019 11:24 am
Last Updated:Jul 9, 2019 9:04 am
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whack-a-mole

1. Literally, an arcade game in which the player uses a small rubber mallet to hit robotic toy moles pop randomly in holes laid out across the surface of the machine.

If a spouse or lover refuses to provide sex to a partner what do you think will happen?

A normal per desires sexual release. So if you do not provide sex then someone else will.

So I compare the sex desire to whack a mole. Even if you suppress it, the sex drive will pop up somewhere else. And with someone else.

If you are not a sex provider to your partner, then someone else will. You may lose the spouse or lover.... to another.

You can blame the partner for straying, or you can blame yourself for not putting out.

Blame never got anyone laid....
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stpatties  62F7/9
12a12b12c12d 48M7/8
bbuckwwheat  60M7/8