There are supposedly rules when it comes to ending a relationship, but this isn’t one of them.
Often, the demise and disintegration of a romance is a clear sign to sever all ties from someone who, at one time, was the person you confided in, spent your days and shared virtually every intimate detail with.
In this respect, I totally agree that if you ended a relationship in a typically fiery manner – whether it’s through disdain, infidelity, or otherwise – you should make a clean break.
Like the majority of people, I’ve been there
And truthfully, there’s nothing more refreshing than a clean break – giving yourself the chance to focus solely on number one.
Ending a relationship is never a nice task, regardless of whether you still love or now absolutely loathe the person.
Many people have had a break-up that’s followed by complete radio silence: simply put, it’s the best way to get over someone and move on.
That means deleting their number, all social media (and even blocking), ridding yourself of all the stuff they left at your flat, and basically doing anything to occupy your mind.
But sometimes, and it doesn’t happen often, it’s possible to stay friends. Honestly, it can happen.
I’m speaking from personal experience here because I’m still good friends with an ex of mine from 2005.
To save on the boring details, after 18 months, we decided that we’d grown apart and would be better off as friends.
Initially it felt odd – mainly because, while the components were no longer there for a romantic partnership, there were still lingering feelings and we still cared about one another.
After a few short months apart, it felt easy to move into a friendship space and the dynamics have been fine ever since.
And to this day we’re still friends.
I can see why this would appear alien to some but that doesn’t mean it’s an implausible scenario.
If you can genuinely forge a platonic friendship with an ex, meaning no complications or conflicts of interest, then I don’t see why not
After all, couples can remain friends after a marriage ends – especially if there are children involved. A childless relationship should in theory be easier, shouldn’t it?
Providing neither side feigns friendship in the hope of rekindling a dormant love, I personally foresee no problem in evolving into friends.
There are plenty of people who would take issue with the concept.
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One other thing the one that lives thirty miles south from me she’s married I to work for the State of Illinois.
So does she , the problem is her husband is technically my boss 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️ . But it was like 20 something years that we dated . Now my other one I’m friends with on Social media.
Yes she’s older then her by 18 plus years.
That’s the only reason I technically like older ladies.
She never did use me . Now it’s fine I see my ex on well daily basis at work.
I’m glad she’s got like five children.
But I’m not the one in his shoes 🔥🔥🔥
Just saying love comes in weird form’s
Depends on the person and situation. I am still very good friends with an ex-AP.
The thing is sometimes they make good FWB buddies!!!
I've only been with my wife that I'm with now but I quess you can call him my first love and I stay in touch with him, he changed my life and gave me what I so wanted to happen in my life way back when I was a young man, I've been in touch with him and actually continued our sexlife when we could and my wife loved to watch us together
Does it count only on Social media. I am with one ex however the other ex that lives in a rural community thirty miles south . No her family was insane.
Her grandparents at the time wanted $500.00 a month plus whatever.
No way
I an friend with all my exes.
I don't see wy not
I'm friends with a few exes... after some time away from each other, reconnecting and just having a friendly connection on platonic terms, but it definitely depends on how a breakup happens, too... if someone is unfaithful (either me or her) that's usually something that can't be overcome because the hurt is going to be always be in back of your mind... but a few times it's just been a situation where we're better off as friends than lovers
Unless you’ve been in the situation where you’ve successfully managed to stay mates with an ex, it’s hard to grasp what it’s really like.
I recall friends frowning at the idea but if it’s something you want to do, then who the hell should tell you any different?
My ex and I occasionally text and chat on the phone, as well as meet up when she’s in town.
We even go out for lunch with her fiance and you know what, it’s not the slightest bit uncomfortable or weird.
Things only go that way if you let it