A Note to the Men Who Keep Missing the Point
Let me clear something up for the guys in this group who continue to act confused about what's going on here.
This is a swinger space.
It's built for people who actually live the lifestyle - openly, honestly, and with full consent. If you're monogamous, that's fine.... but coming in here questioning, judging, or side-eyeing how swingers move makes zero sense.
Here's the reality:
I'm a swinger.
My partner is a swinger.
We're comfortable with sharing.
We communicate, we're transparent, and this is our norm.
So when men who don't live this lifestyle wander in here acting shocked or bothered, it throws the whole energy off. What's even wilder is how some of y'all come in here pretending you're "open" just to cheat behind your partner's back - then try to lecture swingers. That's not how this works.
If you don't understand this world, that's okay.
If it's not your thing, that's okay.
But stepping into a swinger community with a monogamous mindset and judgmental attitude is unnecessary and out of place. You're bringing your own relationship problems into a space that has nothing to do with them.
Swingers aren't knocking on your door critiquing your marriage, your sex life, or how disconnected things are at home. So don't come in here critiquing a lifestyle you're not part of.
Respect the boundaries. Respect the community.
If you're not in this lifestyle, don't try to police it.
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I think this sight was designed to include swingers, but it's not exclusively for swingers.
I never said “exclusive†— not once. I’m speaking as a swinger, from my lifestyle and my perspective.
@thepluglove you did say this is a swinger site
"This is a swinger space.
It's built for people who actually live the lifestyle - openly, honestly, and with full consent."
@GivinNoFux Exactly! I'm glad you agree lol
@cazandh some people just love the back and fourth lol
@cazandh I think you mean the in and out, not the back and forth.
She is talking about this group not the whole site.
@lal1469 oh ok, that makes sense.
Too bad that had to be said...
Well said
Extremely well said! (and you're hotter than hell...)
Bravo!
Right about newbies and what they think and expect!
It's many things to many people. This community section needs to go.
Beautiful
Well said
Thank you well said
Louder for the people in the back!!!! Wonderfully put!
Very well said, very pretty ðŸ˜ðŸ¥µ
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So gorgeous
I believe in live and let Live.
True!!!!!
Very well said!
And what a great, hot pic!
Never understood why people have to judge others by how they live their own lives. If you don't like it, don't be around it and move on!. You and your man be yourselves, live your lives how you so choose and to hell with the judgemental aholes!
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Beautiful pic ,she hot 🔥
Well put. The reviewers of posts should read this post. As an older male, Instead of being put off by the beauty of your wife I'm totally excited by her sexiness.
Wonderfully put. Amazing picture.
ty so much for your support!
I’m sorry you have to deal with stuff.
Thank you for you kind words!
Lot of people cheating on here...
Swinging is a distinctive and important as a non-traditional social-sexual activity, and it deserves to be respected for that. It has also been a source of some great experiences for myself, and for my partner. She had much more experience than I will ever have.
At the same time, "NSA" is established as about the loosest sexual encounter described in a three-character acronym. It is a red flag for the roaming horn dogs that make this place so special. (wince) While the canines have little morality about sex itself, they have much morality about sexuality when it is not their own. Remind them of their place, and perhaps they will go back to where they came from.
What blows my mind is how some monogamous men stroll into lifestyle spaces acting like they’re here for “N.S.A.†but really they’re just cheating in circles. They don’t respect boundaries, they don’t respect couples, and they definitely don’t respect the lifestyle — but somehow they want our community to respect their double life.
Swingers and ethical non-monogamous people play by rules. We communicate. We protect each other. We honor consent. Meanwhile, the monogamous horn-dogs you’re talking about treat “N.S.A.†like a free pass to be messy, judgmental, and entitled, all while hiding from their own partners.
And then they try to step in our lane and tell us how our relationships should work? Nah.
Like you said — mind your place. If you’re not in the lifestyle and you don’t understand the code, this ain’t your playground.
Respect the space or go back to whatever corner you crawled out of.
The lifestyle is for grown, honest, respectful people — not tourists.
@thepluglove --- The 2025 Hounds of Sex... They cause trouble everywhere. I block them.
@NakedSenses likewise!
You are extremely hot
Is this a swinger's website? Look, I agree with the point that is made here what goes on between consensual adults is nobody else's business but I disagree that this is a swingers website. The vast majority of people on here never meet another person for sex including couples off this site. This website would lose 95% of members if you got rid of everyone who wasnt a legitimate swinger. You are living in the past when AFF was tiny and was actually just for swingers. This is a social media site with spaces for swingers to contact each other and meet. Sowee. This is advertised as the world's largest adult community. What does instagram like profiles, camming, the point system, photo contests, and blogs have to do with swinging? I rest my case. Sorry Boomers!
I hear you — but you’re mixing two completely different things together.
AFF as a whole?
Yeah, you’re right. It’s huge now. It’s not just swingers. It’s camming, socials, blogs, contests, all of that. Nobody is arguing that.
But Sky wasn’t talking about the whole website.
She was talking about this group, this space, this community — the one you chose to comment in.
This specific group is a swinger lane.
That’s its purpose. That’s why the rules and conversations look the way they do.
So saying “AFF isn’t a swingers website†is beside the point.
The same way Instagram has millions of users, but a bodybuilding group inside Instagram is still for bodybuilding.
A finance group is for finance.
A swinger group… is for swingers.
That’s the context Sky was speaking to.
And let’s be real: the confusion doesn’t come from the site being big.
It comes from dudes with monogamous mindsets stepping into a swinger space and then acting shocked, offended, or judgmental about what swingers say or do. That’s what throws off the vibe.
Nobody is gatekeeping the whole platform.
Nobody is saying this entire site is only for lifestyle folks.
We’re saying this room has a purpose, and respect goes a long way.
If someone doesn’t live the lifestyle, that’s fine — but coming in here debating swingers about swinging is just unnecessary energy.
Sky wasn’t attacking anybody.
She was clarifying the environment so people stop misunderstanding the space they’re in.
AFF is big enough for everyone.
Just respect the lanes.
Her BF— The Plug Love